I've heard it said that we attract everyone into our lives because we are somehow in alignment with them. However, I have seen & experienced that this is not true. It can be true, but ONLY if we are going with the flow of the law of attraction. 3 days ago I was in a friend's restaurant, I was in there for a couple of hours but one moment I felt to go say hi to him. When I did he was crying with joy he was so happy, he had just received amazing news & he was high flying. That was a reflection of my vibration. I could have gone to say hi to him when I first arrived if I believed that I "should" have, but I didn't, I went with the flow & the encounter happened when JOY was present. Many years ago I had repeated bad experiences with my family because I thought I "should" be around them, somehow fix the relationships, I "should" have been able to hold my vibration to make everything alright. I couldn't. It was impossible. They were always themselves no matter what my focus. I carried the weight of that on my back for so long until I gave up. On giving up I just didn't have those kinds of encounters with them or anyone else like them anymore. I didn't feel the need to sacrifice myself, my happiness, my life, to be around them. I lost my "should" & suddenly I was in the flow of all the good stuff. I was meditating 2 weeks ago & received a lesson about this subject. Our vibration is constantly changing, one hour we can be joyful, the next hour we might be fearful, etc. As we flow with these feelings we attract a match to what we are being. So we attract those who are joyful, or the joyful part of someone (to the point of their OWN personal ability to be able to reach that vibration) when we are in the joyful vibration, as long as we allow ourselves to be around those who are flowing with us instead of forcing ourselves to be with family, friends, lovers, husbands, people in need, or whoever else we feel we "should" be around. Likewise, we attract those who are fearful, or the fearful part of someone (to the point of their OWN personal ability to reach for fear) when we feel fear, as long as we are flowing with life & are not forcing ourselves to be around those we think we "should" be with. The same goes for any experience in life, jobs, places, customers, businesses, restaurants, anything. If we think we "should" be there or go there or do that & that is not where are good feelings are directing us to, then we buck the current of the law of attraction. The good things that the universe has for you are NEVER found in the "shoulds" Share your experiences & ah ha's in the comments below I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how!
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Have you ever noticed that the better you feel the better life gets? Have you ever been getting ready to go on a night out & you are so excited you just know it is going to be an epic night, then it is? Have you ever noticed how easy it is to manifest something that is just fun? You want a panda suit for a dress up party & then bam you stumble across one. You want to go away for a fun weekend with friends & then bam you manifest the money to do it. You really want to go to that event & the universe just seems to line up so that you can go do it. Then on the flip side have you noticed how hard it is to manifest things that are not fun? Like manifesting the money for bills that make you feel terrible? Like manifesting an outfit to wear to work or school when you can't really wear what you want, but you have to wear their uniform? Like finding a replacement for that washing machine hose that broke the other day? There's a reason for all of this: You are an electromagnetic being. You attract your life experiences from your thoughts (electric) & your feelings (magnetic). Thoughts are straight forward, think about what you want, not what you don't want & you will attract it. Don't think about the drama of not getting it, think about already having it. Use your imagination to think about what you really want to live. Feelings are straight forward too. The better you feel the stronger your magnet. Joy, fun, laughter, love,... they attract things so fast like a really powerful magnet. So how can you feel great about manifesting the money to pay off that debt, when it's not fun, it doesn't make you laugh, you don't love it? It's not by pretending that salads are hilarious, you can't fool the universe by pretending to feel something that you don't feel. It's not by going into the bank laughing & pretending it's so much fun to be paying off your debt. It's by putting YOU & how YOU feel first. So you might THINK the most important thing you NEED to manifest is to pay off that debt, but if you go within truthfully and ask yourself what you really want, what does your heart really want? What will truly make you feel joyful? It's that new bikini, or that trip away with friends, or that gorgeous dress you saw in that shop, or that event, ... You know deep down that you don't want to ignore your debt, or that washing machine hose, or that uniform you need to buy, because that would make you feel guilty about the joy you are having with your new bikini, dress, on that trip away with your friends. You want it all! This is the key. To have it all requires you to know that you can. When you know that you can you will change your asking to include it all. For example, you won't ask for $60 for a new bikini, you'll ask for $560 for all the bills which will leave you enough left over for that new bikini. In this way you have prioritised what makes you feel good so that you DO feel good AND you have made sure that the stuff that will make you feel bad if you ignore it is taken care of too. The prize is the bikini, the path takes care of everything else. This is abundance thinking. Just manifesting one thing, the most serious, the most pressing, the scariest, is SOOOOO hard to do, in fact it's impossible, your thoughts are likely to be on the drama of not getting it & your feelings are like that post stick note that falls off the fridge. So write down the whole list of what you want & ask for it all. Set your prize to be those things that make you feel AWESOME & know the other stuff will be taken care of along the way. This shift can have instant manifestation results, so be sure to share in the comments below your ah-ha & your manifestations! I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! Most people react to life. In fact all of us have just reacted to life until we learn that we have the power to create our lives. Reacting to life is a state in which things happen to you, people say things that upset you, you get sick, you get behind on car payments,... & you patch yourself up as best as possible. You are in a state of constantly fighting fires, of reacting to the unwanted that has happened. This state of fighting fires is usually the ONLY time when people seek help, it's when they are sick, or they have a big problem, or when they have hit rock bottom, or when their partner leaves them,... They either cry out for help to the universe or they try to meditate, get readings, pray, say affirmations to try to put this fire out. They do the things that are sacred when they are in the worst state possible & although this does somewhat help, it is far more powerful when done at other times. Imagine your favourite 3 course meal ever, maybe it's a fine dining meal, with all of your favourite foods in it, served in your favourite place in the world,... Now imagine being really hungry one day on the way home from work, when you are in a rush because you have to get the kids to soccer practice & you quickly throw that best meal ever down. You wouldn't do it would you? You'd take that meal when you were feeling good, when you were calm, when you had plenty of time, you would get dressed up for it, you would invite your favourite people & you would honour & respect it giving it the time & presence deserved. So although that 3 course fine dining meal would somewhat help in that situation, it's not the right time for it at all. One of my biggest secrets: For the last 18 years I have ALWAYS done my spiritual practice, not just on the bad days, but on the good days. I've done readings for myself not just when there is a problem but when I am excited to move to the next step. I've meditated not just when I'm overwhelmed with an active mind, but when I'm feeling calm & awesome. I've used affirmations not when I feel terrible about myself, but when I'm feeling great & working out in the gym. In fact these things, meditation, readings, affirmations - or any spiritual work, is WAY more powerful when you are feeling great. Then you can really move forward fast to the life that you want & that's when the magic happens. When you are in a stressed state, reacting to life, the best thing to do is to take action. Stress fills our bodies with fight or flight chemicals, these need an outlet in action, whether that is exercise, cleaning the kitchen, going for a walk,... It requires action to disperse these chemicals coursing through our veins that are making us stressed. Meditation at these times is like ordering bed rest to someone who has drunk so much coffee they are buzzing, it's the wrong course of action to take. So I challenge you to stop fighting fires, to respond correctly to stress with action & to always do your spiritual practice when you feel good, maybe first thing in the morning writing down those goals even when your goals are manifesting & have manifested, meditating in the morning before you start your day to get those awesome intuitive hits of what to do & where to go for the magic to happen, using self-love affirmations in the shower or while you exercise to take your good feeling even higher, getting readings when there's no problem to solve but you'd like for life to get even better! And start to respond to stress with action, like a duck having an altercation with another duck, it will flap it's wings & use up that stressful energy before going about its usual calm duck business, go for a walk, exercise, clean out the cupboards, mow the lawn,.. Share in the comments below what you will do differently I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! I have talked to thousands of higher selves in my readings & this subject comes up again & again. It comes up a lot for women, but it also comes up in men's readings too. I'm talking about trying to unconditionally love turning into unwanted & even painful experiences. Unconditional love isn't ... ... tolerating ... being a doormat ... people pleasing ... putting other people's feelings/desires/needs first ... being loving to people who aren't being loving All of the above behaviour is pandering to other people's egos. It's trying to please the un-alignment in others. It's trading your self-love for their ego. It's not really loving them at all & it definitely isn't loving you. In an ideal world we would all love everyone else unconditionally. But this can only be done when you love yourself unconditionally first - show me one person on this planet who can do this! Conditionally love your way to self love So when you think "This person loves me so I should love them" & you feel bad, because you don't actually like them & they hurt you & your heart is telling you that it doesn't love them. Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead. When you think "I'm going to love this (unlovable) person until I get back the love that I want" & you feel bad, you never feel enough, you don't receive the love back from them & your heart is telling you to walk away. Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead. When you think "If I give this person what they want, if I focus on their needs & meet them, they will be happy & then someone will make me happy too" & you feel bad, you feel resentful, you feel unappreciated, you feel empty, you feel like nobody is giving you what you need & your heart says stop. Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead. When you think "If I love this person enough they will heal/stop their abusive behaviour/change" & you feel bad, you get hurt, you get abused, you get blamed & your heart says run a mile! Listen to your hearts truth. Love yourself instead. Unconditional love is ... ... loving despite conditions ... not trying to change anyone so that you can feel better ... being discerning ... loving their essence, not their ego It's hard enough to learn how to do this for ourselves, never mind to do it for someone else. So this is why trying to unconditionally love before you unconditionally love yourself backfires, it's actually all ego based, not heart based at all. To be heart based requires you to learn to listen to your heart & love yourself first. I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! (I tried to find a picture of anger but only found pictures of people raging, which is very different, so here are some calming stones instead.) I used to think that being spiritual meant being nice to everyone. I wish I could say that I soon learned that being nice to everyone doesn't help me or anyone else, but in reality it took me many years of being a doormat & wide open to abuse to finally get the lesson. Anger is a valid emotion. We feel it when we experience something that breaks our rules or values. Anger has a purpose. Anger's purpose is to provoke us to speak our minds to the person who needs to hear what is in our minds. This is what I used to do: Push my anger down, try to stop feeling it, ignore it, be nice to the person involved. You know what this lead to? I continued to be bullied, abused, raped, taken for granted, used like a doormat. That doesn't make me feel very spiritual, don't know about you. It wasn't just my belief that anger was bad & that nice was spiritual that caused me to push that anger down & be a doormat instead, it was FEAR too. Fear of the other person's reaction if I spoke my truth. Suppression of anger in this way leads to RAGE. Now rage is not a good emotion. It is completely different to anger, and so many people are suppressing their anger instead of expressing it anger is often mistaken for rage. Rage is a whole different beast. Rage is often violent. Rage makes you say things hurtful things that you don't mean. Rage makes you kick the dog or someone else who has absolutely nothing to do with the original anger. Rage is the explosion that comes when enough anger has been suppressed instead of expressed. Rage makes you feel terrible afterwards. However, anger actually makes you feel good afterwards. You express it to the person concerned right away attaching the emotion to it. By attaching the emotion to it I mean shout, cry, express the anger as you communicate what it was that broke your rules. When you express yourself clearly in anger, you are heard. Anger needs to be heard & released, otherwise it festers inside & turns into rage at some poor unsuspecting soul. The outcome of expressing your anger can be: 1. Expressing your anger to someone who is not self aware will cause them to react badly to you. If you choose to express your anger to someone like this make sure that you are protected first, make sure that they have no way of getting to you afterward. Surround yourself with self aware people - let the idiots go, they are not your responsibility. 2. Expressing your anger to someone who is self aware & who loves you might cause them to start to make excuses & defend themselves - stop them & tell them that this is about you speaking & them listening, then carry on expressing. This will lead to them thinking about what they have done now that they know just how much it hurts you & changing the behaviour. 3. In the clarity that you achieve once a completely valid emotion has been expressed, you realise that it's your rules that need changing not the other person's behaviour. In my years of being a doormat I tried all kinds of disempowering practices like: Changing my rules & being ok about the rapist!!! Ummm HELLO? Changing my rules & being ok about the abuser!!! WTF? Pushing that anger down, not expressing it, no change happening, still getting hurt over & over then rage coming out when it's time to give the cats their worming tablets - I kid you not! So please spiritual teachers: No more of this anger is bad, anger isn't spiritual, whatever you do don't express it, whatever you do don't send that email, wait until you have suppressed your anger & have a ticking time bomb within BS. PS. Now that I am expressing my anger properly I am no longer a doormat, I can eject idiots out of my life (I was disrespected twice 7 months ago & that person is no longer in my life), I can help the people who I love who I want in my life learn & grow so that they are not hurting me & others anymore, I am much happier, I feel infinitely more empowered & I can calmly give the cats their de-worming tablets. (Bingo & Raffles meow a sigh of relief) I'm Claire Louise Hay, I help you claim your true power to manifest the life of your dreams through self-awareness and alignment with your higher self. Want to work with me? Click here to find out how! |
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